In our experience the following books are the best on abuse.
Transformation: Contains two chapters on Bible models for abusers and recovery
Alternatives of Domestic Violence: Workbook for Domestic Violence Groups (Secular)
Anger is a choice: A basic book about anger by a Christian author
The Anger Workbook: The core underlying issues that cause long-term anger
Battered into Submission: Covers Christian domestic violence issues
Boundaries: The classical Christian book on establishing personal boundaries
The boundaries workbook: The companion workbook for Boundaries
Helping Victims of Sexaul Abuse: A more general book about sexual abuse
The wounded heart: The most indepth clinical Christian book on childhood sexual abuse
The wounded heart workbook: The companion workbook for the Wounded Heart
Treating Childhood Sexual Offenders: The most definitive book on treating pedophiles.
Beauty for Ashes: Joyce Meyers story of her recovery from sexual abuse.